How winning racehorse âchanged everythingâ for girl with cancer
When five-year-old Betsy had an ear infection, stomach pain and fever, her GP put it down to a virus. But Betsyâs mother Charlotte had a gut feeling something was very wrong.
Betsy was taken to A&E with stomach pain, and a food intolerance was suspected.
But Charlotte began to research her daughterâs symptoms and approached her GP again â this time querying leukaemia, and they agreed to do some blood tests.
âI was desperate⊠it was complete panic⊠I knew that there was something wrong,â she recalls.
âShe was fatigued, her personality had changed, she didnât want to play with her friends or her sister any more.â
Within days of Betsyâs blood tests, in February 2023, Charlotte received a phone call asking her to take Betsy to the Princess of Wales Hospital in Bridgend to be given the results.
âFor that drive there, I couldnât speak,â she remembers.
âPanic set in, that sickness and I remember just shaking, my whole body was trembling until I got to the hospital.â
With her horse trainer husband Christian away working in Cheltenham, she and Betsy were ushered into a room where they received the news Charlotte had been dreading.
âI had a gut-feeling, I knew it was going to be [leukaemia]âŠ. but it still hit me like a bus,â she says.
âI was numb⊠I remember just standing up and holding onto the bed and not being able to speak, I got that noise in your ear like you see in films and everything sort of stopped.â
Betsy was diagnosed with acute lymphoblastic leukaemia (ALL) and was immediately admitted to Noahâs Ark Childrenâs Hospital for Wales in Cardiff, where a play therapist was able to explain the diagnosis to her in a way that she could understand.
Within two days, chemotherapy had started.
âThe treatment for leukaemia is very long and very gruelling and the first six weeks are particularly difficult,â says Charlotte.
âTheyâre put on a steroid which completely changes their personality and the way that they look and I donât think we were quite prepared for all that.â
Betsy interjects with a giggle: âI was really fat.â
âShe was very, very poorly,â interjects Charlotte.
Since then, her family say their lives have been âa rollercoaster of emotionsâ.
Just six weeks into Betsyâs treatment the racehorse trained by her dad, Kittyâs Light, won the Scottish Grand National, allowing the family to experience happiness in the darkest of times.
âKittyâs Light came at the right time in our lives,â says Charlotte, sitting outside their stables in Ogmore-by-sea, Vale of Glamorgan, with Betsy on her lap.
âWe were having a particularly bad day with Betsy at home and I wasnât even interested,â says Charlotte.
âI wasnât going to watch it but my mother-in-law and my mother were like âcome on, weâll put it on, itâs nice for her to see her daddy on tellyâ.â
Little did she know the horse was about to run the race of his life.
âIt was so emotional, I was jumping around the place after the first fence,â says Charlotte.
Betsy adds: âAll I remember is mum screaming up and down. I had a headache as well â and that made it worse.â
âIâm sorry,â giggles Charlotte.
It was the tonic the family needed.
âIt was just that kick up the bum that said âcome on, things are going to be alright, it isnât all doom and gloom, weâre going to have some happiness along the wayâ,â says Charlotte.
âIt changed things for us, gave us a focus⊠something to look forward to.â
Charlotte admitted she had found a resilience she didnât know she had.
âPart of it is that youâve got no choice,â she says.
âAt the start I crumbled a little bit but youâve got to change your mindset and it was finding the positives in every day⊠thatâs still what gets me through.â
She has been moved by family, friends and the horseracing community who have rallied round.
The bonds that Betsy has made with other children being treated at Noahâs Ark and that she and Christian had formed with their parents also helps them get through.
âThe friendships that weâve made will probably be forever now, for a lifetime. Weâre very lucky,â she says.
Betsy is now in the maintenance phase of her treatment, which will continues until May. It includes daily oral chemotherapy, monthly chemotherapy through her portacath â a small device thatâs under the skin to give long term access to a vein â and a lumbar puncture every three months.
Her hair is growing back too, she is able to enjoy playing with her older sister Tilly, nine, and is back at school.
Charlotte has returned to her job as a physiotherapist with a new sense of perspective.
âItâs been a rollercoaster ride of emotions⊠but for now weâre managing well and weâre positive and weâre happy and we make the most of every day that we have together.â
âItâs completely changed my outlook on everything,â she says.
âNothing will ever worry me ever again⊠nothingâs more important in life than your children, your family being well and healthy and happy. Anything else can be sorted out.â
Charlotte says although she still cries a lot she refuses to feel sorry for her family.
âIâve never felt âwhy usâ because itâs got to happen to somebody⊠they were just the hands that we were dealt and weâve got to deal with it the best that we can.â
She is determined to find pleasure in the everyday. It could be something as simple as sitting in the sunshine with the girls, family activities like birthdays or Kittyâs Lightâs thriving racing career.
âItâs been very difficult and youâve gone through so much but I think youâre going to remember it as lots of lovely times that youâve had,â she says to Betsy.
âEven though this has been traumatic and absolutely awful to go through I think because of the love and support weâve had off people weâre going to look back at things quite fondly and change our perspective on life.â