My daughterâs killer danced in our home â she didnât realise abuse signs
Fifteen-year-old Holly Newton was murdered by her boyfriend at the end of their abusive relationship. As her killer is jailed, her family and police say Hollyâs story should act as a warning to other young people.
Holly did not see she was a victim of domestic abuse until days before her death, her mother Micala Trussler says.
âI donât think she realised what he was doing,â she says. âEven just controlling is a form of abuse.â
Logan MacPhail was Hollyâs âfirst and only boyfriendâ, Micala says, the couple having met at army cadets and spending 18 months in a âtypical teenageâ relationship.
He spent weekends with her family; Micala has videos of them singing and dancing together in her living room.
But when Holly decided she wanted to break up, MacPhail deployed âemotional blackmailâ, claiming he would harm himself and showing all the âclassicâ signs of domestic abuse.
âHe was obsessed with Hollyâ, Micala says. âIf he couldnât have her, no-one could.â
MacPhail was 17 when he stabbed Holly to death in an alleyway in Hexham, Northumberland, in January 2023.
The attack was ferocious, with MacPhail inflicting 36 knife injuries during the minute-long frenzy.
He admitted during his murder trial the relationship could be abusive and toxic.
Micala says MacPhail wanted to control Holly and needed to âknow where she was at all timesâ.
But Holly did not see the problem until it was too late.
Micala is keen for other young people to see the warning signs and wants domestic abuse between young people to be recognised legally.
âI think we need to realise now that young people are having relationships a lot younger,â she says.
Her call is echoed by Annie (not her real name), who was 15 when she found herself in an abusive relationship.
âHe wouldnât let me wear what I wanted to wear. I went and got my hair cut once and he wasnât happy with it â he told me to put a bag over my head,â Annie, who is now in her 20s, says.
âAnything that he could pick at me with, my weight, so I became anorexic, the way my skin was because I suffer with eczema and he didnât like it and he made fun of it.
âIf I wore too much make-up, not enough make-up, the colour of my hair, anything.
âHe would find ways to change me.â
âDidnât tell anybodyâ
Verbal abuse also became violent, with Annieâs partner breaking her arm when she was pregnant.
Her boyfriend hid the abuse from Annieâs family, with whom the young couple were living, and it took a long time for her to realise what was really happening.
âI had no idea it was wrong,â she says.
âI just thought thatâs how everybody was, because he was my first real relationship, Iâd never been with anybody else, so I wasnât aware and I didnât tell anybody.â
She is no longer with her partner and has received support from the Acorns Project in North Tyneside, which helps teenagers who experience domestic violence.
Like Micala, they think the law around domestic abuse, which currently only classifies people aged 16 and over as being victims of abusive partnerships, needs to be looked at.
âBy not recognising it as domestic abuse within the legal definition, we may not be recognising the severity and the seriousness of the issue,â Kris Koth of Acorns says.
âYoung peopleâs relationships are important to them, they are just as intense as adult relationships, but sometimes they donât feel their relationships are taken seriously.â
Kris warns there is a risk the abuse in young peopleâs relationships is viewed as not as severe as that in adult relationships, âwhen we know that isnât trueâ.
âPromote healthy relationshipsâ
Det Sgt Darren Davies says messages MacPhail sent to Holly clearly showed coercive behaviour.
âHe would talk about the break-up and how heâd harm himself if she didnât speak to him,â he says. âIt is a fairly common tactic of perpetrators to get people back on side as a sympathy element.
âFor a 15-year-old girl to hear that canât have been easy and Holly didnât understand what that was.â
The prevalence of mobile phones and social media can make teenage relationships âmore intenseâ, Det Sgt Davies adds.
âThe big thing I have taken away from the case itself is the relationship those two had at the age they were,â he says.
âYou realise just how much contact kids have with each other and those relationships are far more intense and involved than I think a lot of adults probably appreciate.â
Society has a responsibility to help children navigate the complicated world of relationships, he says, adding: âJust talk to them and promote healthy relationships and boundaries, show them whatâs healthy and whatâs not.â
A Home Office spokesperson said the governmentâs âthoughts remain with Holly Newtonâs loved ones after her horrific murderâ.
They said there was a âclear missionâ to halve violence against women and girls within a decade.
âAs part of this, we will be looking closely at how we can intervene at the earliest opportunity to protect girls when children present such harmful behaviours,â the spokesperson added.
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