Widow of aid worker Simon Boas describes āunusualā grief process
Aurelie Boas, whose husband was recognised for his āinspirationalā perspective on death, has spoken of her āsurrealā final days with him.
Aid worker Simon Boas died in July, aged 46. The Jersey resident gained widespread acclaim for writing about coming to terms with his terminal throat cancer diagnosis.
Mr Boasās book, A Beginnerās Guide to Dying, will be published posthumously on Thursday.
Mrs Boas has been overseeing its publication and told the BBC it was āa bit unusual to grieve this wayā.
āItās a great responsibility for me to have to be in charge, but itās quite wonderful to have this legacy,ā she told Radio 4ās Today programme.
The book collects Mr Boasās writing about death, which has captured many readers for its unexpected positivity.
In his final weeks, he said he was āas happy as Iāve ever been in my lifeā.
āI think he prepared me very well,ā Mrs Boas said. She added that he started āpulling away a bitā in what she thinks was an effort, consciously or unconsciously, to ready her for his death.
āI feel very grateful in the way we managed to discuss everything, but also have normal days,ā she said.
Mr Boas spent the end of his life in a Jersey hospice with his wife by his side.
The couple were surrounded by framed photographs and vases from their home, as well as cards from friends. āWe took everything with us,ā Mrs Boas told the BBC.
She also shared that before her husband moved into the hospice, the couple took a drive around the island: āHe wanted to see Jersey one last time. It was a lovely day.ā
Mrs Boas described her husbandās final days as āboth surreal and magical, as strange as it soundsā.
The couple watched Wimbledon on TV together. Mr Boas would sometimes have hallucinations, leading to odd questions such as: āIs it possible I just saw a dog on the tennis court?ā His wife would tell him no, ābut itās wonderful that you didā.
āHe kept his very good sense of humour, even when he was a bit out of it,ā she said.